Monthly Archives: March 2017

Rules of engagement: Design your fight plan

In a world full of diverse people, make that a HOME full of diverse people, conflict is inevitable. Our needs often conflict with the available resources; be it time in front of the bathroom mirror, squeezing or rolling the toothpaste, or who should feed the dog this morning. Whether the source of conflict is large or small, it could be helpful to establish some ground rules and design a fight plan that everybody in your household agrees on. Continue reading Rules of engagement: Design your fight plan

Rules of engagement: I statements

Sharing difficult information can be exceptionally challenging and cause much conflict. “I statements” presents as one of many techniques that could empower you to honestly communicate your concerns and frustrations.

This simple technique requires some practice and may seem stiff initially. It is beneficial as it forces you to think about how a person’s specific behaviour (not character) affects you (take responsibility for your own reactions). It also challenges you to think about potential solutions and provides opportunity for the other person to contribute to the conversation. Continue reading Rules of engagement: I statements

Resources for negotiating date night

Whether you read research articles or cosmopolitan magazine, you will be familiar with the importance of spending time with your partner. Whether your relationship is new or established, flourishing or estranged, finding creative strategies to spend time together can be a challenge. Here are a few resources that can help you get inspired to engage in a regular date night ritual. Continue reading Resources for negotiating date night

Making good decisions

In a world filled with variety and media bombarding you with options, making decisions can be particularly challenging. Mix this with a fear of failure or aversion to uncertainty, and you are set up for experiencing psychological distress to some degree. See how this quick, non-emotive technique can help “Amy” to decide what breakfast she should choose for her family.

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