It’s the new year. You have committed to being a fitter healthier you, which included new running shoes and an expensive gym membership. But, real life has swung into action and the goals you set feel impossible to reach. And you
Follow these steps to increase your motivation:
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Wellness is more than physical or mental health. It refers to holistic wellness – satisfaction with a variety of domains in your life. How well are you? How do you figure it out? And what do you do with that information? Continue reading Wellness as a pizza
Becoming more aware of your mood, monitoring it on a regular basis holds many benefits for both maintaining health, and aiming interventions during periods of mental unwellness. Continue reading Mood monitoring using your phone
How would you know what you are aiming for if you keep on saying what you DON’T want?In the book, Getting the love you Want, author Harville Hendrix emphasizes that we would benefit from focusing on positive statements. The book provides an in-depth explanation of designing a vision statement for your relationship. Continue reading Casting a vision for your relationship
Overwhelmed by the options facing you? Feeling paralyzed by decision making? Barry Schwartz, author of “The Paradox of Choice” argues that too much freedom of choice is actually not as beneficial as we think. Continue reading Book Review: The Paradox of Choice
Our experiences within our family of origin affects the way we engage in romantic relationships. Have you taken the time to discuss these potential differences with your partner?
Was your family feisty? Or were they quick to sweep things under the rug? How did that affect the family’s expression of affection? Could family members directly ask for what they want? How did your family express anger?
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Role Division in my Family
Families have their own norms and roles. Roles about who makes decisions, does chores, balances the finances, disciplines, etc. Then there are also expectations about parenting, and gender based independence or privileges.
What was your family experience?
Perhaps there are examples you have purposefully discarded. Perhaps there are aspects that have subconsciously snuck in. There are many ways of doing family and doing relationships. Take some time to learn from your partner. Give each other grace to make mistakes while you figure out what role division works for both of you.
Skill Acquisition in my Family
What did you learn about financial decision making and conflict resolution in your family? And what messages did you receive about enjoying a mutually beneficial sexual relationships?
While comparing notes about your families of origin, you and your partner may learn that you wish to acquire some additional skills. Not just for your benefit, but for the next generation who will be talking about their parents/family of origin one day. Contact me to book your session.
Mending The Torn Fabric (Sarah Braband) is a self-help book for individuals who wish to engage in grief work. The metaphor beautifully describes how loss can be experienced as a tear in the fabric of our lives. Whether you are working through a recent, or long avoided loss, this easy to read book provides stories and tips to help you mend the tear(s) in your fabric. Continue reading Book Review on Grief: Mending the Torn Fabric
Clinical problems that clients present with in therapy usually falls in three categories: unhealthy negative emotions, self-defeating behaviour, and maladaptive cognitive consequences. Therapy can assist you to identify these problems, identify and change the thinking that maintains it. Maybe you need some help to put your finger on the thing you would like to change. This list could help!
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Albert Ellis, founder of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy said: “Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they’re alive and human.” How is it that we so desperately crave unconditional acceptance, but are so slow to give it to others or ourselves?
This century is characterized by high levels of anxiety (the normal automatic emotional response to perceived threat) and worry (a mental strategy to avoid danger). While anxiety and worry is normal, many people experience these in excess. Here follows a variety of common thought traps that prevent you from having a corrective learning experience about anxiety. Continue reading Worry theory: Overcoming common thought traps