Clinical problems that clients present with in therapy usually falls in three categories: unhealthy negative emotions, self-defeating behaviour, and maladaptive cognitive consequences. Therapy can assist you to identify these problems, identify and change the thinking that maintains it. Maybe you need some help to put your finger on the thing you would like to change. This list could help! Continue reading Common clinical problems→
Looking back, you may remember how hard it was to decide to engage in therapy. It’s scary trusting a stranger with your stuff, never mind admitting that you have stuff! Well, ending therapy (also known as graduating from or terminating therapy) can be similarly challenging. Let’s see how you can evaluate whether you are ready to graduate, ending options, and common fears about termination. Continue reading Are you ready to graduate from therapy?→
I am sure every household has it: The cupboard where things get shoved into while you hold the rest of the contents back with another arm before you close the door with your foot. At any moment this cupboard could swing open and spill it contents on the floor – or worse, fall all over you. Avoidance of the linen or Tupperware cupboard, perhaps?
Sometimes our memories can be like this. Uncontrollable, they spill out whenever they feel like it. Painful. Perhaps even shameful. It’s easy to succumb to the temptation to avoid these feared memories, but is it helpful?
Some days I wish that I was a fairy godmother (or had a fairy godmother) who could swish a magic wand and take all the problems and suffering away. That would be so much easier than needing to undertake a process of personal change! If you have ever tried helping somebody going though a hard time you will be well aware that there are no magic wands. So what does help a person going through a change process? Continue reading What helps people change?→
Even if you don’t believe that life is a musical, Maria taught the Von Trapp children a principle that also applies to psychology: ABC, do re mi, CBT!
So what are the ABC’s of therapy (specifically in CBT/REBT)?
A: Activating event
This is the trigger is you like. It can be an internal or external stimulus e.g. something happening, an unwelcome thought, or a bodily sensation.
I would like to call these IRRATIONAL beliefs, because they tend to create all kinds of unhelpful consequences at C.
These consequences refer to the things you do and don’t do in response to the irrational beliefs. It can be behavioural (e.g. withdraw, avoid, fight), relational (e.g. strain on specific relationship), emotional (e.g. anxiety, depression, anger), or physiological (e.g. heart rate, breathing, trembling).
It is important to note that it is not A that causes C, rather it is B that causes C. We cannot always wave a magic wand and make A magically disappear. But what therapy can do is help you to change how you THINK about it.
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In the meantime, enjoy Maria and the Von Trapp children’s song! Use it as inspiration to practice ABC, do re mi, CBT.