Perhaps you can relate to Tim Urban, the master procrastinator.
ABC of procrastination
A: Thesis is due in two years
C: Procrastinate until the last minute
Remember, it is not A that causes C, but B. So what might a master procrastinator be telling himself?
- I must feel like doing it
- It should be easier
- I can’t stand the discomfort
- I am an incompetent person unless there is pressure
Perhaps it is not so much about the pleasure or ease, but more about the anxiety pertaining to perfection. This person could be saying things like
- I must get it perfectly right
- Failure is awful
- I can’t bear failure
- I am an absolute failure so what is the use in trying
- I would really prefer to feel like doing it, but I don’t have to feel like it to actually do it
- I would really like this to be easy and pleasant, but it’s okay if it is not
- This task is uncomfortable, but I can stand it
- I am human and allowed to make mistakes. I am also allowed to change and choose to NOT procrastinate. Just because I don’t feel like it doesn’t mean that I am incompetent.
- I would like to get it right, but it doens’t have to be perfect
- Making mistakes are bad, but realistically it is not the end of the world
- Although it would be hard, I can handle it if I made a mistake
- Making a mistake does not make me a complete failure
Should you be reading this article in the midst of one of your procrastination breaks, consider the important-urgent principle to guide your time management:
I dare you to try something new and actually DO something that you don’t FEEL like. Do feel free to contact me and arrange a session if you find it difficult to manage the crazy monkey! Do it now – don’t procrastinate.