Albert Ellis, founder of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy said: “Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they’re alive and human.” How is it that we so desperately crave unconditional acceptance, but are so slow to give it to others or ourselves?
This century is characterized by high levels of anxiety (the normal automatic emotional response to perceived threat) and worry (a mental strategy to avoid danger). While anxiety and worry is normal, many people experience these in excess. Here follows a variety of common thought traps that prevent you from having a corrective learning experience about anxiety. Continue reading Worry theory: Overcoming common thought traps
While engaging in therapy for anxiety, you will be invited to face your fears. The trouble is, you may have various additional fears that make this process challenging. Here is a quick look at some common “what if” thoughts that maintain your experience of anxiety and a few suggestions on how to overcome them. Continue reading Is “What if” maintaining your panic?
Do you have a long list of needs that are never met? Do people complain that they feel bullied by you or perhaps, that you are a nag? Do you get mad when people don’t automatically know your needs? This strategy may help you to make a request with more desirable outcomes. This skill is useful if you are trying to become more assertive, communicate less emotionally, reduce your manipulation of others, or honestly identify and take responsibility for your “stuff.” Continue reading Rules of engagement: Making requests