Albert Ellis, founder of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy said: “Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they’re alive and human.” How is it that we so desperately crave unconditional acceptance, but are so slow to give it to others or ourselves?
Some days I wish that I was a fairy godmother (or had a fairy godmother) who could swish a magic wand and take all the problems and suffering away. That would be so much easier than needing to undertake a process of personal change! If you have ever tried helping somebody going though a hard time you will be well aware that there are no magic wands. So what does help a person going through a change process?
Continue reading What helps people change?
“When helping you is hurting me” provides a fascinating read – useful for personal wellness for those in the helping/social professions as well as persons experiencing difficulties with assertiveness.
Carmen Renee Berry writes that two powerful (and common) belief systems causes the Messiah Trap. Continue reading Book review: Addicted to helping?