Discipline is more than a once off intervention. It is an ongoing display of secure boundaries and consistent consequences. In this stressful time, children may be picking up on our anxiety and the changes in routine which may lead to a greater need for these displays of love (i.e. secure boundaries and consistent consequences). Here is a quick review of discipline strategies. Continue reading Corona: Discipline, don’t destroy
If only parenting came with a manual! But it doesn’t. Parenting requires navigating a variety of important but often contradictory values. With the added complication of attempting to parent your children with other adults with different parenting styles. How would you rate your parenting style on a graph measuring warmth (low and high) and firmness (low and high)? Continue reading Assess your parenting style
Communication is the foundation for all relationships, and therefore the source of most conflicts. Often we fight about HOW we fight, rather than WHAT we fight about. Continue reading Are you speaking the right language?
How would you know what you are aiming for if you keep on saying what you DON’T want?In the book, Getting the love you Want, author Harville Hendrix emphasizes that we would benefit from focusing on positive statements. The book provides an in-depth explanation of designing a vision statement for your relationship. Continue reading Casting a vision for your relationship
Our experiences within our family of origin affects the way we engage in romantic relationships. Have you taken the time to discuss these potential differences with your partner? Continue reading My Family and Our Romance
Do you have a long list of needs that are never met? Do people complain that they feel bullied by you or perhaps, that you are a nag? Do you get mad when people don’t automatically know your needs? This strategy may help you to make a request with more desirable outcomes. This skill is useful if you are trying to become more assertive, communicate less emotionally, reduce your manipulation of others, or honestly identify and take responsibility for your “stuff.” Continue reading Rules of engagement: Making requests
In a world full of diverse people, make that a HOME full of diverse people, conflict is inevitable. Our needs often conflict with the available resources; be it time in front of the bathroom mirror, squeezing or rolling the toothpaste, or who should feed the dog this morning. Whether the source of conflict is large or small, it could be helpful to establish some ground rules and design a fight plan that everybody in your household agrees on. Continue reading Rules of engagement: Design your fight plan
Sharing difficult information can be exceptionally challenging and cause much conflict. “I statements” presents as one of many techniques that could empower you to honestly communicate your concerns and frustrations.
This simple technique requires some practice and may seem stiff initially. It is beneficial as it forces you to think about how a person’s specific behaviour (not character) affects you (take responsibility for your own reactions). It also challenges you to think about potential solutions and provides opportunity for the other person to contribute to the conversation. Continue reading Rules of engagement: I statements
Whether you read research articles or cosmopolitan magazine, you will be familiar with the importance of spending time with your partner. Whether your relationship is new or established, flourishing or estranged, finding creative strategies to spend time together can be a challenge. Here are a few resources that can help you get inspired to engage in a regular date night ritual. Continue reading Resources for negotiating date night
Ken Sande and his team present a fabulous paradigm called “Relational Wisdom.” This post is dedicated to review this free resource. In particular, I would like to show you how you could benefit from this resource if you are not religiously minded. Continue reading Relational Wisdom Resource Review