Category Archives: Resources

Corona: Discipline, don’t destroy

Discipline is more than a once off intervention. It is an ongoing display of secure boundaries and consistent consequences. In this stressful time, children may be picking up on our anxiety and the changes in routine which may lead to a greater need for these displays of love (i.e. secure boundaries and consistent consequences). Here is a quick review of discipline strategies. Continue reading Corona: Discipline, don’t destroy

Rules of engagement: Making requests

Do you have a long list of needs that are never met? Do people complain that they feel bullied by you or perhaps, that you are a nag? Do you get mad when people don’t automatically know your needs? This strategy may help you to make a request with more desirable outcomes.  This skill is useful if you are trying to become more assertive, communicate less emotionally, reduce your manipulation of others, or honestly identify and take responsibility for your “stuff.” Continue reading Rules of engagement: Making requests

Rules of engagement: Design your fight plan

In a world full of diverse people, make that a HOME full of diverse people, conflict is inevitable. Our needs often conflict with the available resources; be it time in front of the bathroom mirror, squeezing or rolling the toothpaste, or who should feed the dog this morning. Whether the source of conflict is large or small, it could be helpful to establish some ground rules and design a fight plan that everybody in your household agrees on. Continue reading Rules of engagement: Design your fight plan

Rules of engagement: I statements

Sharing difficult information can be exceptionally challenging and cause much conflict. “I statements” presents as one of many techniques that could empower you to honestly communicate your concerns and frustrations.

This simple technique requires some practice and may seem stiff initially. It is beneficial as it forces you to think about how a person’s specific behaviour (not character) affects you (take responsibility for your own reactions). It also challenges you to think about potential solutions and provides opportunity for the other person to contribute to the conversation. Continue reading Rules of engagement: I statements

Resources for negotiating date night

Whether you read research articles or cosmopolitan magazine, you will be familiar with the importance of spending time with your partner. Whether your relationship is new or established, flourishing or estranged, finding creative strategies to spend time together can be a challenge. Here are a few resources that can help you get inspired to engage in a regular date night ritual. Continue reading Resources for negotiating date night