Discipline is more than a once off intervention. It is an ongoing display of secure boundaries and consistent consequences. In this stressful time, children may be picking up on our anxiety and the changes in routine which may lead to a greater need for these displays of love (i.e. secure boundaries and consistent consequences). Here is a quick review of discipline strategies. Continue reading Corona: Discipline, don’t destroy
If only parenting came with a manual! But it doesn’t. Parenting requires navigating a variety of important but often contradictory values. With the added complication of attempting to parent your children with other adults with different parenting styles. How would you rate your parenting style on a graph measuring warmth (low and high) and firmness (low and high)? Continue reading Assess your parenting style
Communication is the foundation for all relationships, and therefore the source of most conflicts. Often we fight about HOW we fight, rather than WHAT we fight about. Continue reading Are you speaking the right language?
How would you know what you are aiming for if you keep on saying what you DON’T want?In the book, Getting the love you Want, author Harville Hendrix emphasizes that we would benefit from focusing on positive statements. The book provides an in-depth explanation of designing a vision statement for your relationship. Continue reading Casting a vision for your relationship
Our experiences within our family of origin affects the way we engage in romantic relationships. Have you taken the time to discuss these potential differences with your partner? Continue reading My Family and Our Romance
Do you have a long list of needs that are never met? Do people complain that they feel bullied by you or perhaps, that you are a nag? Do you get mad when people don’t automatically know your needs? This strategy may help you to make a request with more desirable outcomes. This skill is useful if you are trying to become more assertive, communicate less emotionally, reduce your manipulation of others, or honestly identify and take responsibility for your “stuff.” Continue reading Rules of engagement: Making requests
Whether you read research articles or cosmopolitan magazine, you will be familiar with the importance of spending time with your partner. Whether your relationship is new or established, flourishing or estranged, finding creative strategies to spend time together can be a challenge. Here are a few resources that can help you get inspired to engage in a regular date night ritual. Continue reading Resources for negotiating date night
Ken Sande and his team present a fabulous paradigm called “Relational Wisdom.” This post is dedicated to review this free resource. In particular, I would like to show you how you could benefit from this resource if you are not religiously minded. Continue reading Relational Wisdom Resource Review
A few years ago I stumbled upon a book that speaks to adult children. Entitled Toxic Parents (Forward, 1989) it describes various situations where scared/powerless children are stuck inside adult bodies still trying to please their parents. Chapters cover a range of topics (below) and end with recommendations on reclaiming your life (and not repeating your parents’ mistakes). A short summary of this book review: Continue reading Toxic childhood: Book review
“When helping you is hurting me” provides a fascinating read – useful for personal wellness for those in the helping/social professions as well as persons experiencing difficulties with assertiveness.
Carmen Renee Berry writes that two powerful (and common) belief systems causes the Messiah Trap. Continue reading Book review: Addicted to helping?