Relational Wisdom Resource Review


Ken Sande

Ken Sande and his team present a fabulous paradigm called “Relational Wisdom.” This post is dedicated to review this free resource. In particular, I would like to show you how you could benefit from this resource if you are not religiously minded.


Discover your personal values

Firstly, discover your personal values. The “God” section of the RW360 wheel refers to the guiding principles in your life. Perhaps you could try to identify your top five values from this values worksheet.

The amygdala hijack principle

I would also likAmygdala Hijack Principlee to recommend that you explore his website and pay special attention to his teaching on the “amygdala hijack” principle. He explains the science behind why it is a good idea to slow down: think before you react. It holds many benefits to your relationships (not to mention minimizes the guilt and regret you feel after a rash word).

The value of soft skills

The relational wisdom equation is an apt way to describe the value of soft skills. Ken Sande describes that the value that a person contributes to the group is not the sum of his hard and soft skills. Rather it is a multiplication of effect.

For example:


  • Person 1 has 7 hard skills and 2 soft skills
  • Person 2 has 4 hard skills and 4 soft skills

If you had to count it together Person 1 has more skills than person 2:

  • Person 1: 7 + 2 = 9
  • Person 2: 4 + 4 = 8

But using the multiplication effect, you can see that Person 1 contributes less value to the group than Person 2:

  • Person 1: 7 x 2 = 14
  • Person 2: 4 x 4 = 16

Discover for yourself

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